The Vulnerability Test: How to tell if someone is safe to be vulnerable with.

The Vulnerability Test: How to tell if someone is safe to be vulnerable with.

Most of you reading these words will be in some way like me: We learned very early on in life to close our vulnerability, because we were in an environment that wasn’t safe to expose such a pure part of ourselves. We were judged, shamed, ridiculed, or punished for authentically being. Given such circumstances, learning to close off certain (essential) parts of ourselves was a matter of inner survival.

I know that personally, I got so good at hiding my vulnerability that I nearly forgot I was actually doing it, and the process of first recognizing what I had lost (or buried), then excavating it, was quite intense.

Perhaps you can relate.

Emotional Processing 101: A Simple, Powerful Technique For Working With Your Emotion

Emotional Processing 101: A Simple, Powerful Technique For Working With Your Emotion

Emotional processing is absolutely fundamental.

Let me qualify that statement: I learned at a very young age that certain feelings were not okay to express, to take ownership of or maybe even to have - and that if I did express them, I would be either rejected or punished because of it.

So I developed a lot of unhealthy ways of hiding and contorting my feelings. I became a master repressor - automatically burying my feelings before I even fully recognized them consciously.

I'm Triggered - Now What? (3 Steps To Break Unconscious Patterns In The Moment Of Heat)

I'm Triggered - Now What? (3 Steps To Break Unconscious Patterns In The Moment Of Heat)

I am a crown prince of tiggering. Or I would be, if they gave out crowns and royal designations for getting triggered and acting a fool.

But, alas, they do not. Still, I have a colourful history of getting triggered and enacting outdated, inappropriate and toxic patterns - not an incredibly unique trait, I know. But one of the greatest journeys of my life so far has been studying the process of emotional “triggering” - in my own life. Slowing it down while I am in it, learning the signature thoughts and feelings of various unconscious patterns that have traditionally subsumed me, and developing the awareness and emotional resilience to withstand this type of inner coup.

How To Make Synchronicity Water: A Story & Technique

How To Make Synchronicity Water: A Story & Technique

Last summer I poured myself a glass of water and decided to try something different that I'd heard about:

I held my hands above the cup of liquid (which was simple, unadorned filtered tap water), closed my eyes, and started to imagine energy beaming out of the centres of my palms and into the water. I breathed into my heart as I visualized and felt the energy of money, joy, and material flow both inside me, and flowing through my palms, infusing my water with its essence the way a bag of tea would.

Except this was a lot more interesting than most tea - it was a flavourless, odourless alchemical infusion.

In Praise Of Christ(mas) Consciousness - Why I Love Christmas Even Though I Don’t Really Celebrate It

In Praise Of Christ(mas) Consciousness - Why I Love Christmas Even Though I Don’t Really Celebrate It

The mythology of Christmas tells the story of many of our deepest inner lives.

Take the hard-hearted Ebenezer Scrooge who, visited by three ghosts and taken back through time to witness the calcification of his empathy and humanity, has an incredible awakening to the divinity of self, other and life.

Most of the great Christmas stories we tell are some variation on this theme of heart-opening, often assisted by a child or divine intervention (ghosts, Santa etc). You might say that they all depict some form of transformation into Christ (or more accurately, Christmas) consciousness.

Your Body Is A Compass: How To Use Your Symptoms As Guidance

Your Body Is A Compass: How To Use Your Symptoms As Guidance

Somaticization.

That’s a bit of a mouthful, I know.

It’s also the technical term for what happens when our intense, unresolved emotions manifest as physical symptoms - something we all experience, whether we are conscious of it or not.

For me personally, there’s almost an inside joke among my close friends around how intensely I ‘somaticize’. That is, how my emotions and the misaligned energy of others I interact with can easily, if I am not careful, manifest as severe physical symptoms.

Call it being highly sensitive, empathic, blessed or cursed, it is a colourful reality that I’ve come to respect and learn from. To put it really simply: when my brain loses the plot - when mentally I am comfortable with things that are totally unacceptable to my core self - my body doesn’t miss a beat in staging full scale revolt.

Inner Work Fundamentals: If You're Going To The Past, Make It Better!

Inner Work Fundamentals: If You're Going To The Past, Make It Better!

When I was about five years old, I was on a trip to the city with my family when I lost my wallet. 

Somehow I had saved up fifty dollars - a significant fortune for my five year old self - so the level of devastation I experienced when somehow I wasn’t able to find my life’s savings, contained within my precious wallet, was profound.

A few years ago this experience came to the surface as I was doing some inner work and excavation around feelings of loss, betrayal and scarcity - all of which were certainly cultivated by the episode of my lost wallet.