How To Make Synchronicity Water: A Story & Technique

How To Make Synchronicity Water: A Story & Technique

Last summer I poured myself a glass of water and decided to try something different that I'd heard about:

I held my hands above the cup of liquid (which was simple, unadorned filtered tap water), closed my eyes, and started to imagine energy beaming out of the centres of my palms and into the water. I breathed into my heart as I visualized and felt the energy of money, joy, and material flow both inside me, and flowing through my palms, infusing my water with its essence the way a bag of tea would.

Except this was a lot more interesting than most tea - it was a flavourless, odourless alchemical infusion.

In Praise Of Christ(mas) Consciousness - Why I Love Christmas Even Though I Don’t Really Celebrate It

In Praise Of Christ(mas) Consciousness - Why I Love Christmas Even Though I Don’t Really Celebrate It

The mythology of Christmas tells the story of many of our deepest inner lives.

Take the hard-hearted Ebenezer Scrooge who, visited by three ghosts and taken back through time to witness the calcification of his empathy and humanity, has an incredible awakening to the divinity of self, other and life.

Most of the great Christmas stories we tell are some variation on this theme of heart-opening, often assisted by a child or divine intervention (ghosts, Santa etc). You might say that they all depict some form of transformation into Christ (or more accurately, Christmas) consciousness.

Your Body Is A Compass: How To Use Your Symptoms As Guidance

Your Body Is A Compass: How To Use Your Symptoms As Guidance

Somaticization.

That’s a bit of a mouthful, I know.

It’s also the technical term for what happens when our intense, unresolved emotions manifest as physical symptoms - something we all experience, whether we are conscious of it or not.

For me personally, there’s almost an inside joke among my close friends around how intensely I ‘somaticize’. That is, how my emotions and the misaligned energy of others I interact with can easily, if I am not careful, manifest as severe physical symptoms.

Call it being highly sensitive, empathic, blessed or cursed, it is a colourful reality that I’ve come to respect and learn from. To put it really simply: when my brain loses the plot - when mentally I am comfortable with things that are totally unacceptable to my core self - my body doesn’t miss a beat in staging full scale revolt.

Inner Work Fundamentals: If You're Going To The Past, Make It Better!

Inner Work Fundamentals: If You're Going To The Past, Make It Better!

When I was about five years old, I was on a trip to the city with my family when I lost my wallet. 

Somehow I had saved up fifty dollars - a significant fortune for my five year old self - so the level of devastation I experienced when somehow I wasn’t able to find my life’s savings, contained within my precious wallet, was profound.

A few years ago this experience came to the surface as I was doing some inner work and excavation around feelings of loss, betrayal and scarcity - all of which were certainly cultivated by the episode of my lost wallet.

How Can We Turn Our Breakthroughs Into Meaningful, Lasting Change? (Putting Revelatory Experience Into Practice)

How Can We Turn Our Breakthroughs Into Meaningful, Lasting Change? (Putting Revelatory Experience Into Practice)

How does a breakthrough become more than just a momentary rupture in our status quo, and actually result in lasting, meaningful change to our person, our behaviour and our life?

I have asked myself this question endlessly, both as an individual on a path of conscious healing who’s trying to figure out all of the stops and starts, all of the roadblocks and beacons - and as a facilitator who helps others both “breakthrough” oppressive patterns or situations, and learn how to anchor new ways of being in their lives day to day.

How To Avoid Spiritual Bypassing

How To Avoid Spiritual Bypassing

I sometimes shy away from using the term Spiritual, because there are so many practices that fall under that moniker which are really spiritual bypass.

Spiritual Bypassing - although it is an unfamiliar concept to some, is incredibly common. It could be considered a shadow side of a lot of spiritual practice.

In essence, it is present whenever we use spirituality to disconnect from - or bypass - things that are challenging, difficult to look at, painful, or that we are ashamed of.

It is in action when our spirituality enables us to disconnect from or gloss over what really matters. And it seems to happen in most spiritual traditions. Many Christians bypass their sexuality, many Buddhists their anger (yes, these are generalizations), and so on.

But why does it matter?

Polyamory, Conscious Monogamy & Knowing Your Heart's Needs

Polyamory, Conscious Monogamy & Knowing Your Heart's Needs

I have a lot to thank Polyamory for.

Let me be clear from the beginning though: I don't actually practice polyamory. However, my one brief foray into it's landscape was the catalyst for a period of deep soul searching that completely changed my life, in more areas than just intimate relationship.

Many years ago, I had been in a relationship with a woman for several months when they made it clear they were not comfortable with the relationship being exclusive. 

The list of things I felt when I found this out was long and intense: Confused, devastated, overwhelmed...

The Art Of Letting Go: Three Ways To Tell When A Relationship Is Over

The Art Of Letting Go: Three Ways To Tell When A Relationship Is Over

How do you know when a relationship has come to the point where the only healthy way forward, is letting go?

In my experience, most people have an incredibly difficult time navigating this question when it counts - and for good reason. Many of us bring to our relationships a rich tapestry of past wounds, needs and relational patterns that can either compel us to stay in the wrong relationships for the wrong reasons - or to jump ship the moment things get into emotional terrain we are uncomfortable with and don't know how to navigate. 

As I have written in the past, I don't personally see the end of a relationship as a failure. I actually feel quite strongly that, when it is in alignment and approached consciously, the end of a relationship can and should be extremely beautiful - it is actually one of the most important, sacred parts of a relationship.

YOUR ONLINE DATING PROFILE IS A SACRED DOCUMENT: How and Why To Write Your Soul Into Your Dating Profile

YOUR ONLINE DATING PROFILE IS A SACRED DOCUMENT: How and Why To Write Your Soul Into Your Dating Profile

Online dating profiles don't get much love. 

As a writer, facilitator, and someone with an appetite for depth, love and authenticity, however, I see the online dating profile as a sacred document. It is an opportunity for us to crystallize who we are, what our heart longs for more than anything in this life, and where we are at in our development as a human learning to relate to our own needs and vulnerability. It allows us to define our current place in the extraordinary dance of love, intimacy, sexuality and relationship. All of this, of course, in the service of drawing in a profound connection.

I mean, from both a writing perspective and a soul development perspective, this is very juicy territory.